Getting older and bolder has been on my mind a lot lately.
And the more I think about the idea of getting older, the more I like it.
“What’s to like?”, I hear you ask.
Here is my long list of positives about becoming older. All things I am so very grateful for:
#1: I know what I like.
#2: I know what I don’t like.
#3: I care less about what others think.
#4: I am more opinionated.
#5: I have become more tolerant and forgiving.
#6: I am even bolder.
#7:I am more daring.
#8: I am still adventurous.(My biggest challenge to come yet is Trekking the Grand Canyon for the MS Trust in September 2017. Donations are so welcome!)
#9: I am choosier about how I spend my spare time.
#10: I have a greater sense of what matters. (Experiences over material things, any time.)
#11: I’m more focused (because time feels more precious.)
#12: I have learnt to go with the flow.
#13: I don’t expect things to be perfect for me to enjoy them.
#14: I don’t take family relationships and friendships for granted.
#15: I have more than patience. (Especially with seniors).
#16: I don’t sweat the small stuff anymore. (The question I ask myself: Does this really matter, in the grand scheme of things?)
#17: Deep down, I haven’t changed much. I still feel young at heart. (Sometimes even like 16.)
#18: I have made a bucket list, at the invitation of my youngest son. (And he and I are working our way down the list, one item at a time.)
#19: Sometimes it feels like I have collected large amounts of experience, insights – maybe even wisdom? (Even though the thought of having wisdom makes me feel really feel old.)
#20: I accept life has ups and downs. (Being happy all the time would be pretty boring, wouldn’t it?)
#21: I find happiness in little things. (The sun shining in my face on a still autumn day. The robin coming into the garden to pick some grubs. A smile of a stranger in the street.)
#22: I appreciate that being healthy is a precious gift. (Long may it last!)
#23: I find it easier to laugh about myself and my shortcomings. (Who wants to be perfect, anyway?)
#24: I enjoy giving back. (Helping the next generation thrive, whether that is through coaching, mentoring or just making connections for those who need a bit of help to find their feet.)
#25: I start to imagine what it would be like to be a cool grand mother. (Psst, don’t tell my children! There’s plenty of time for that, first they need to enjoy their freedom.)
#26: I know when to ask for help (and don’t feel like I have to do everything myself to prove my independence.)
#27: I live in the here and now, rather than in the future (Something that is quite an achievement for someone whose strength is being “futuristic” – i.e. finding it easy to envisage new openings and spot new opportunities.)
#28: Having grown up before snapchat, whatsapp and FB ruled (When personal meant personal, and nothing could be shared online.)
#29: Having made plenty of mistakes, but not regretting any of them.
#30: I have kept my sense of humour.
#31: I am still hopeful I can leave this world in a better place than I found it. (Call me an optimist.)
And the few things that suck. Yes, they absolutely suck.
#1. Having less energy than in my twenties and thirties.
#2. Worrying about cholesterol levels, blood pressure and my BMI.
#3. Struggling to read the small print. (Wearing glasses is annoying, especially when I want to do sports or it rains.)
Quite a short list in comparison to the positives, don’t you think?
What’s on your list of reasons why being older and bolder is better than it sounds?
Just leave a comment below – I am curious to see what you think!
I agree with lots of your comments Ruth, particularly being more patient and tolerant, knowing and accepting myself better, enjoying the little things, having teenagers in the house, and having more time to do the things I want to do.